whose will?

“It seems to me that the spiritual answer is to be found in neither optimism nor
pessimism about the future, but in complete trust in God.

Fr Benedict Groeschel


(Percy sporting a “mimi” hat / Julie Cook / 2017)

And just incase you’re confused…the question is not who’s Will…?
As in who is Will…?
But rather…whose will…?
As in mine yours, ours or His…..

The past couple of days, weeks and even months I feel as if most of my posts
have had one central theme in common…the simple matter of will.

As in the constant tug of war we play with both ourselves as well as everyone else…
with the ultimate tug and pull and war being with God himself.

When I was a little girl my grandmother Mimi would crochet and knit up a storm.
Sewing, knitting, needlepoint…you name it, she did it.
Yet none of that ever appealed to me…it was not ever to be my forte.
I just didn’t enjoy it and I especially loathed trying to learn it.

I don’t know if it was a patience thing or rather that I just opted for
other creative outlets.
Today a reattached button is about the extent of my sewing endeavors.

My grandmother however was profuse with Mother following in hot pursuit.
Afghans, throws, bell pulls, pillows, samplers, seat cushions, stool covers…
all of which now oddly adorn my home.
But the specialty, or rather the pièce de résistance being always, the “mimi hat.
A crocheted toboggan like thing looking oddly like a flapper’s cap.

Everyone got a mimi hat.

Colors were limited to brown, beige, rust, cream, antique gold….
You’d put the hat on your head and immediately your hair was now a flat static
fly away mess. Wildly and weirdly standing on ends atop your head so you
had no other choice but to keep the hat pulled down tight on your head…
while looking a bit odd wearing the thing in the house especially in the summer.

Mother would make us put on and wear the blasted things when we went to visit
or if Mimi would come to visit us.
Not that Mimi would expect it, but Mother knew it would make my grandmother happy
seeing us “enjoying” her handiwork.

I hated them.

My choice in wearing the hat was that I could either fight and refuse or
I could suck it up, acquiesce and please…
I opted for the later because I did not want to make my life miserable while
making everyone else’s lives miserable.
Nothing like a 7 year old demanding no to a parent demanding yes.

The same held true when I was made to wear a dress every time we visited our other grandmother, Nany. Since Nany bought the bulk of our clothes, Mother knew that
if she wanted to keep her mother-n-law happy, she’d better be putting her kids
in those nice new clothes. Never mind that I was happiest in jeans or shorts.

Which goes back to mother having a choice…
She could either give-in to our whining and let us look like sloppy bumpkins
while drawing the ire of the woman who had bought us all sorts of nice clothes
or she could get us gussied up and uncomfortable while drawing the praise of this
matriarch.
She too chose the latter.

I learned early on that sometimes its best to give a little while giving in a little
rather then reveling in being self centered with a life short lived
in a sea of selfishness.

Yet our society appears to have forgotten about biting the proverbial bullet…
Living in a nation that is now in a constant state of in-fighting over the notion
of our own individuals wills, is proving both counter productive and most
oppressively destructive.

It says a lot about us as a society that we are constantly demanding our own
will to be done.
As we’ve moved from the consideration of others to simply damning others.

Fr Benedict reminds us of the importance of a will other than our own…
“‘Your will be done.’
This conviction should be the ultimate intention of all your prayers–
along with finding our peace in the acceptance of that will.
Certainly, to pray like this is a gift of the Holy Spirit.”

“It is out of two things, acceptance and obedience to God,
that we receive the great gift of peace.”

If we persist in this hellbent quest of ours, demanding our own will rather than
seeking out and yielding to His will,
we will be damning not only others but ourselves in the process….

When we went down last month to West Palm Beach for my aunt’s funeral,
As we sorted through my aunt’s belonging determining what should stay
or be tossed, I found a box full of mimi hats.
Funny how these some odd 50 years later, seeing those hats brought a warm smile
to my face and a most warming sensation to my heart.
I was immediately transported to a happier time.

How different that could have all been had I refused so long ago to have ever
worn one of those hats preferring to be self-centered and selfish.

Seeing them all these many years later may have actually brought back some very
difficult memories rather than the happy ones I felt suddenly seeing them again
all these many years later.

I opted to bring two of them home.
I won’t be wearing them, but I’ll be happy knowing that I now have them…
I just think the cats are probably now thinking what I use to think….
that these are really stupid looking hats….


(oooo lala)

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Romans 12:2

38 comments on “whose will?

  1. A couple of weeks ago I was bring Holy Communion to a woman who was homebound due to ill health.

    As I entered her home, I was met by a certain kitty who had perched himself on the back of a chair.

    He gave me a kiss on the nose.

  2. atimetoshare.me says:

    Percy looks splendid in his Mimi hat. It was made for him. I’ll bet it looks good

  3. atimetoshare.me says:

    On you too!

  4. Peaches and Percy give a whole new meaning to “pussy cap.”

  5. Lynda says:

    I had a cat named Percy many years ago. Your cats are beautiful and I’m sure they bring you much joy! I have been thinking of getting another pet but now that I’ll be travelling to the Soo fairly regularly, it would be unfair to the little cat/dog. They are certainly a wonderful comfort and lots of fun.

  6. Wally Fry says:

    Percy looks rather irritated.

    • He tolerates his mother 😻

      • Wally Fry says:

        SoM made me laugh. Our Percy likes to run in and hop on the back of the chair to greet people too and will sometimes lean out like he wants to give them a kiss. One day I guess he was overexcited. He heard a car pull up and ran to his chair and misjudged I guess. When he hit the chair back it leaned on over and he kept flying. Right into the wall on the other side, so that when the person actually came in, poor Percy was on his back on the floor trying to get his bearings back.

      • Aren’t they great!?
        Mine are so skittish around anyone who comes to the house that they run and hide in our closet way underneath Gregory’s side under his shirts…then slowly they’ll emerge and cautiously scope things out….

      • Wally Fry says:

        Not our Percy he is a little social butterfly. Even when we have a big dinner or something he wanders around saying hi to everybody. He’s even mostly okay with loud kids

      • Our Percy was more bold when he was little but he really took note of Peaches and her running at the sound of something loud or different.
        Take Gregory sneezing—everyone is sitting all nice and happy—snug and content on mother until Gregory randomly sneezes—then you’d think the end of what world had come as they both jump, scratch off, usually in my lap while drawing blood as they make a crazy mad dash to the closet—as if they haven’t heard him sneeze a hundred times…
        I’ll get so mad at Gregory who tells me he couldn’t help it as I now have to go tend to the gaping wounds on my legs!

  7. Salvageable says:

    Cats in hats always equals trouble. J.

  8. 🙂 🙂 🙂 too cute and great thoughts…Your will, Father, not mine.

  9. Absolutely it’s His will and not ours. Great post. Love Percy and his hats. 🙂 ❤

  10. oneta hayes says:

    Life is so much easier when one learns to give a little or even a lot on things of small import! 😀

  11. Citizen Tom says:

    A bit of wisdom mixed with a bit of humor. Delectable!

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