communicating

“Wisdom cannot be imparted.
Wisdom that a wise man attempts to impart always sounds like foolishness to someone else …
Knowledge can be communicated, but not wisdom.
One can find it, live it, do wonders through it, but one cannot communicate and teach it.”

Hermann Hesse

“The speed of communications is wondrous to behold.
It is also true that speed can multiply the distribution of information that we know to be untrue.”

Edward R. Murrow

I think the great WWII correspondent, Edward R. Murrow had no idea as to how
prophetic his words would one day be…
that being the speed of communication having a direct correlation to the distribution
of information that is…untrue.

I think we currently call that Fake News.
Be it intentional or unintentional, the bottom line is that it is untrue none the less.

And yet we all know that we are born to communicate.

We come out at birth communicating…most often with wailing displeasure…
but a needed sound none the less. Because that displeased wail allows all to know that
we are indeed alive and well.

So in one capacity or another…we are born to share one with another…
communicating with our words, our thoughts, our feelings.

It’s what makes us,`us.

We touch, we see, we feel, we taste, we hear….all feeding our brains with various messages.

You see that little “ten commandments” sheet in the picture up above?
That is a little commandment sheet for a spouse of a person who suffers from hearing loss.

It is a lesson for a hearing spouse of a not so good hearing spouse…

In part because the nonhearing spouse either does not hear the hearing spouse
right off the bat or misinterprets the hearing spouse’s words…

“Who died???” my husband implores as I ask if wants me to make iced tea for supper.

“I don’t want any ice cream” my husband snaps when I ask if he needs a towel when he’s heading
to the shower.

“Turn there” or “Exit here” I instruct as we are driving someplace as he sails
right past the turn or exit all the while asking “What??”

Whereas the conversations are often humorous…they can also be irritating on
both sides…frustrating and even serious if I’m telling him to watch out as something
comes hurdling his way.

For my husband, his troubles began when he nearly had his head blown off years ago in a hunting accident.
His tale is one that speaks to the importance of really knowing who it is you go off hunting with…
really know them…their character, their background, their expertise, their years of hunting
and their knowledge of firearms.

Go with the wrong person…and bad things can happen.

In my husband’s case, it was his hearing and thankfully not his head.

He has had to wear hearing aids ever since.

If you’ve ever worn hearing aids then you know that we can put a man on the moon but,
despite costing thousands of dollars, we cannot make a decent hearing aid.

I’ve seen my husband’s hearing aids go flying across a room when they fail to help
make things clear, as they tend to make things worse.

There is deep frustration in not being able to hear…or to hear correctly…as well as
efficiently being able to communicate within a given conversation to another person.

He had thought hearing aids would ease and help all his woes but alas, that has not been the case.

The cat once ‘took’ one of the hearing aids…thinking it was some poor high pitched
squeaking creature.
The cat saw it on the counter while my husband was showering and made off with it,
throwing it up in the air and battering it all around…all over the house until
upon my investigation, I realized this mesmerizing “toy” was actually
a $3000 hearing aid.

One was once lost to the sea after a giant wave knocked ‘someone’ over who forgot he was wearing them.

And one just oddly vanished.
Never to be seen or heard from again.
He’s still blaming the cat…but this time the cat is off the hook.

He’s on his third pair.
A new brand and a new doctor.
Yet still not the wonder instrument one would hope.

At his last hearing visit, he explained the frustration with hearing me,
or make that not hearing me.

She hands him “the commandments.”
He, in turn, walked in the house and immediately handed me the commandments…

Hmmmmmm…

And so I say all of this about the importance of communicating, hearing, listening
as I labor to set aside the necessary time to digest the wonderful thoughts and input regarding
our collective blogging family’s prayer.

Prayer is our key means of communication with our Creator….be it audible
or silent…be it groanings or cries.

Yesterday morning, Fran reminded me about the notion of hymns…
which in turn made me think about the Psalms—
the early sung prayers of those who yearned, long before ourselves, to
communicate with their God, our God…
be they Psalms of praise, thanksgiving, petitions or lamentations.

This evening I listened to more “news” regarding this new form of abortion.
That being the surviving product of an abortion gone wrong…a now fully born child.
A baby needing immediate attention…yet the adults in the room fumble
all over themselves…let it die, let it live???

I am sickened, horrified, and utterly saddened.

What have we become?

However, it’s nothing new under the sun you remind me.
Atrocities have been committed since the original murder of a brother killing a brother.
It is our lot as a fallen creature…

And yet this does not assuage my heart.

And so as I labor to bring us around to a collective form of a unified prayer–
a means of a common communication to our Father in Heaven, I am continually
drawn back to those who have no free voice of their own…

I’ll ruminate a bit longer… while in the meantime I learn to turn off the kitchen sink and walk
myself into the den in order to stand in front of my husband who’s resting in his recliner,
when I need to tell him that he’s once again accidentally hit the alarm on his key
fob as his truck’s alarm is now blaring in the garage for all of creation to hear…
all of creation but him…

to be continued…

Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
1 Corinthians 16:13

27 comments on “communicating

  1. Reblogged this on Talmidimblogging and commented:
    Amen and Amen

  2. Wyldkat says:

    *This evening I listened to more “news” regarding this new form of abortion.
    That being the surviving product of an abortion gone wrong…a now fully born child.
    A baby needing immediate attention…yet the adults in the room fumble
    all over themselves…let it die, let it live???*

    “If a mother is in labor, I can tell you exactly what would happen. The infant would be delivered. The infant would be kept comfortable. The infant would be resuscitated if that’s what the mother and the family desired, and then a discussion would ensue between the physicians and the mother,” [Virginia Governor] Northam said in a WTOP interview. [https://www.dailysignal.com/2019/01/30/virginia-governors-answer-on-late-term-abortion-hints-at-support-for-infanticide]

    “Babies don’t survive abortion.”
    “If they survive, they [the baby] are so malformed they can’t live long”
    Comments I saw on fb last night. Debate died out after I posted links to interviews with people, adults, who survived abortion.

    Regardless of your position on abortion, once the child is born, letting it just die is wrong. Why would this not be seen as negligence? Parents are charged with negligent homicide, how is this different?

    I’m sure by now you have seen Citizen Tom’s link to the Prince William Family Alliance article. If not, take a moment to read it. The piece is well done.

    • Yes and it pains and grieves my heart deeply— I’ve read many a book about “survivors” of abortion’s gone bad who lived and grew up to tell about it. It is murder no matter how ones tries to convince themselves otherwise!!!!

  3. atimetoshare.me says:

    This one really hits home as far as the hearing loss goes. Now that you and Gregory are together on a daily basis, 24/7 I’m sure it has become even more frustrating for you. I haven’t gotten hearing aids yet, mainly because we can’t afford them. I’m also turned off by the things I’ve heard others having to go through as the wear them. I love the commandment list and will show it to Paul. He won’t admit it, but he’s saying “what” a lot lately.

  4. Being hearing impaired and having to wear hearing aids, I thank you for this message. Sent it to my wife to read. I pray that it will be helpful to her as well.

  5. Tricia says:

    Most of the the so called “news” we hear is not worth the effort of listening to. Yet, we must be aware and pay attention because snuffed away in all the chaotic nonsense are real acts of evil like the new pro infanticide arm of the Democratic party that must be called to and challenged.

    On a lighter note, both myself and my S/O suffer have hearing issues which in a weird way can be helpful. 😉

  6. oneta hayes says:

    Love the “Ten” list. I am the culprit. Yes, the person with the hearing loss is most often the problem. Wish I had nerve enough to copy the list and post on the ‘frig. That might be a bit in your face for my loved ones. They would probably think I am say it is their fault. 😀

  7. Melissa Zelniker-Presser says:

    Missed you guys, it is good to be back. Finally got around to putting up my first post!

  8. Melissa Zelniker-Presser says:

    Wait until you see what I wrote about. I HEAR!!!

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