how can we ever work together with such disdain?

Childish egocentrism is, in its essence,
an inability to differentiate between the ego and the social environment.

Jean Piaget

(Huff Post)

As long as people believe in absurdities they will continue to commit


Here are two different images from two different years but each image offers the same
feelings of rude pettiness…

So I don’t think frustration is a strong enough word to describe how I felt last night when watching
the President’s State of the Union Speech—what with the Speaker of the House,
who was perched directly behind the President, displaying visibly blatant disdain
for the President of the United States.

She sat behind him and proceeded to mock him, shaking her head, and babbling under her breath
throughout most of the speech and finally, in a nationally observed crescendo of disrespect,
ripped up her copy of the speech that she was handed by the President just prior
to his delivery.

Just like a child throwing a temper tantrum.

A professional adult acting exceedingly unprofessional.

And so what of…

Such public displays of childish behavior offered by our legislators are not what I want
my grandchildren to think appropriate or accepted.

“Pelosi’s act dishonored the institution and destroyed even the pretense of
civility and decorum in the House.
If this is the Speaker’s “drop the mike” moment,
it is a disgrace that should never be celebrated or repeated.
In a single act, she obliterated decades of tradition.”

Jonathan Turley

Over the past week, watching on and off some of the Impeachment hearings, I obviously
grew frustrated with the entire farce and waste of tax payer’s money.
That would be me and you and our money.

I grew tired of listening to the likes of Adam Schiff and Jerry Nadler
rambling on and on while simply saying the same things over and over…

Our bipartisan divide has grown into such a deep, wide and empty void with the average
American sitting perched on the precipice.

Do not we the people not desperately want a bridge?
I should think that Americans want their Nation to work…
which means we have got to learn how to work together.

In 60 years of living…I have witnessed the typical, and often contentious, tit for tat
within our political parties…
There has been resentment, the blocking of bills, lies, and innuendos,
but throughout it all, in the end, most politicians have eventually understood that
there must be a compromise…there must be a give and take…
the reaching across the proverbial aisle in order to get things done for the betterment
of the Nation.

Yet the current thread of hate, disdain and the refusal to reach across party lines
have each become more and more assinine.

And so it was, in all of this frustration, there was a small story at the end of last week
that stopped me in the tracks of my tirade.

Jerry Nadler announced that he would not be present in this week’s wrap up of the
Impeachment hearings.
‘Thank the Lord’ I thought…. but it was the reason he gave for his absence which brought
me back to the essence of our humanness.

Jerry Nadler’s wife was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer at the end of the year.
And so I will assume that treatments are not going as they should as he announced that he needed
go home to be with his wife and family as they pondered their next steps.

The rabid dog who has been nipping at the heels of the President,
even before he won the election, is also a husband whose wife is battling cancer.

My heart went out to him, his wife and family.
I added them to my prayers.
Lifting them up to God’s special care during this difficult time.

Did Mr. Nadler stand to applaud Rush Limbaugh when he was spotlighted during the
State of the Union speech as he too is now battling cancer… stage 4 lung cancer.
The President awarded Mr. Limbaugh the Medal of Freedom Award.
I don’t know if Mr. Nadler stood to recognize a fellow human being who is now
also struggling.

But isn’t that the true heart of the matter here…our humanness?
That which makes us all more alike than different?

So I will echo what I wrote a few weeks back…
“It is so easy for me to fuss and cuss the idiocy taking place from both sides of the aisle
as these people, this body of governmental leadership, has put the running of our Nation’s
business on permanent hold as they wage a petty battle among themselves.

And for what?


And so looking at the Bible sitting on that table, I got to thinking that I actually had
an opportunity. I could either fuss, cuss and lament about our Governmental leadership,
or lack thereof, or I could do something much more important—
I could pray”.

And so I will pray.
I ask if you might wish to join me.

Almighty God, who hast given us this good land for our
heritage: We humbly beseech thee that we may always prove
ourselves a people mindful of thy favor and glad to do thy will.
Bless our land with honorable industry, sound learning, and
pure manners. Save us from violence, discord, and confusion;
from pride and arrogance, and from every evil way. Defend
our liberties, and fashion into one united people the multitudes
brought hither out of many kindreds and tongues. Endue
with the spirit of wisdom those to whom in thy Name we entrust
the authority of government, that there may be justice and
peace at home, and that, through obedience to thy law, we
may show forth thy praise among the nations of the earth.
In the time of prosperity, fill our hearts with thankfulness,
and in the day of trouble, suffer not our trust in thee to fail;
all which we ask through Jesus Christ our Lord.

The Book of Common Prayer

23 comments on “how can we ever work together with such disdain?

  1. hatrack4 says:

    The Boy Scouts removed ‘square’ from their pledge, because that wasn’t cool (Cub Scouts). You missed ‘square’ and ‘civility’, unless I missed them. As my wife keeps saying, “I don’t belong here anymore.” Maybe I never did.

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  3. says:

    You have encouraged me to pray this morning. We both know that’s the only answer to the chaos in this divided country of ours. I think there’s a reason that we’re still here. There’s no telling what might happen if the voice of reason is silenced.

  4. chomskyweb says:

    birds of same feathers….trump and her are the same

    • And thus you highlight the ugly tit for tat— a he said so I’ll say, a he did so I’ll do… a back and forth volley of ping pong leaving no adults in the room but rather petty children.
      The President demonstrated resolve and restraint last evening— somewhat refreshing— the Left, not so.

  5. Tricia says:

    Amen Julie, what a mess this country is in. Although I was appalled (but not at all surprised) by Pelosi’ and the Democrats behavior last night, there is plenty of vindictive, shallow behavior coming from all sides and throughout our culture. We are a people that have lost their way and quite obviously their connection to God.

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  7. Salvageable says:

    My thoughts exactly. Given the group that sulked and pouted throughout the President’s speech and the leader of that group who tore her copy of the speech in half, I am ashamed of our country. The friend who watched the speech with me asked if that was normal behavior at a State of the Union speech. I cannot remember Republicans treating Presidents Carter, Clinton, or Obama in that fashion. Even though things keep on seeming to get worse, I pray that the flood of rudeness will crest and things will begin to return to normal. J.

    • I totally agree— in administrations past, sure it was a common sight to see those of opposing sides who may have opted not to applaud or to stand in support of what was being said but to see a cadre of women all dressed in white like something out of the Handmaide’s tale— of which such a comparison would send them balking, or a Madame Speaker smirking and actually shredding a speech just handed her by the President of the United States is absolutely a new low of vehement disrespect—- my prayer is that the average American citizen will say a loud NO MORE!!!!

  8. Deborah Ann says:

    Amen and Amen! She is a disgrace needing Jesus’ grace!

  9. SLIMJIM says:

    I think things are turning against the Democrats…I mean the disdain from Pelosi made me upset and I’m not a super big Trump supporter.

  10. Dawn Marie says:

    This was so painful to watch (both times.) Such incivility….

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