“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.”
Anne Frank, Anne Frank’s Tales from the Secret Annex:
A Collection of Her Short Stories, Fables, and Lesser-Known Writings
(looking down on the top of the original grave marker for my grandmother’s
great grandfather / Julie Cook / 2020)
Yesterday, I wanted to escape.
I wanted to go anywhere—anywhere where there were no protests, no looting, no riots,
no fires, no pandemic, no hate…but oddly I wanted to go to a place of death.
Or more aptly put, a place of final rest.
Odd yes, but I just really wanted to go away.
Just for a little while.
So where do you go to escape the world and her madness on the final Sunday in May?
I had a thought.
We got in the car and drove for a while.
Driving to a tiny rural middle Georgia town…
It was the birthplace of my grandmother.
There isn’t much to this tiny speck of a town.
It is a rural area with its share of farming and cattle.
My grandmother isn’t buried here but her mother, sister, and brothers are.
She, on the other hand, is buried in Atlanta and Atlanta is under siege so I wasn’t
about to go back over there…the middle of rural nowhere Georgia was much more appealing.
My grandmother’s father was killed in 1900 during the Spanish American War and
in turn, she and her three siblings were raised by their 26-year-old widowed mother
along with her father–their grandfather.
It was in this small rural town where they were raised.
But how in the world did they get to this place in the middle of
nowhere I’ve often wondered.
I knew that their family had come to this small middle Georgia area by means of Savannah.
Their great grandfather had been born in Savannah and before that, their great-great
grandfather was born in Germany finding his way to Savannah via London and North Carolina.
He fought in Chatham’s Artillery during the Revolutionary War.
The son severed in the Georgia Legislature and later as a state Judge.
Following the Yellow Fever outbreak of 1820 that killed 4000 in Savannah,
the elder man took his small family to rural middle Georgia as a hope
to avoid the sickness found in a swampy coastal region.
And since neither man, grandfather nor great grandfather were buried in
the hometown of my grandmother, I wanted to know where they were.
It didn’t take long to locate them with a quick google search.
They were only about 12 miles away in a small cemetery located in another small town–
the county seat to this particular rural county.
(the grave of the man, along with his wife, who raised my grandmother / Julie Cook / 2020)
And the irony found in my day’s journey was that I got a call while we were exploring the second
cemetery from our son, asking where in Arlington, the Atlanta Cemetery in north Atlanta,
where my dad, his Pops, was buried.
It seems that seeking peaceful rest was a running thread in my small family today.
He wanted to visit his grandfather’s grave, introducing his young son to his great grandfather–
and in turn, my mom, my uncle, my grandmother, my grandfather, and my cousin.
My brother was elsewhere in the cemetery.
A family reunion of sorts.
(my grandson meeting my mom, his great grandmother/ Brenton Cook / 2020)
(my grandson meeting my dad, his great grandfather/ Brenton Cook / 2020)
So with all of this notion of death, eternity and yes, even peace, swirling in my head,
and obviously in my son’s as well, I shifted gears right back to the madness plaguing our land.
For you see, I couldn’t truly get away.
I kept thinking about an article I had read the previous night.
It was an article by a black woman who was riling against anyone using
the phrase ‘all lives matter….’
In her mind, the folks who were saying such a phrase were white and due to their skin color,
“they didn’t get it”—
and thus, such a comment was to be considered racist…
so we can only say black lives matter…while forgetting all the rest.
She was angry.
And the odd thing is that I actually wrote a post about this very thing back in 2015…
five years ago.
Imagine that—five years ago we were digging the same divide we see continuing today.
Five years ago we still had national trouble.
We were riding the wave of the Occupy Wallstreet movement.
Antifa and Black Lives Matter were rising violent groups who sought change by the use
of force and violence at any cost.
Police officers were part of the problem.
In particular white police officers.
We don’t seem to change much in this country because we continue having the same
tragic incidents over and over.
Here is a portion of that post I wrote in September of 2015:
Fast forward to September 1st 2015…
Breaking News…a Fox Lake, Illinois police officer is shot by 3 assailants
and dies from his wounds.
He’s a 32-year law enforcement veteran who leaves behind a wife and four children.
The suspects are still at large as the entire community is put on lockdown.
This incident comes on the heels of a coldblooded assassination,
which took place over the weekend of a Texas Sheriff’s deputy who was shot while simply pumping gas,
filling up his police car.
A man approached him from behind, shooting him executioner style.
When he fell to the pavement, the gunman stood over the body,
emptying his gun into an obviously dead body—an exclamation point of murder.
This incident comes on the heels of a coldblooded assassination, wait, didn’t I just say that…
of two television journalists in Virginia…etcetera, etcetera, ad infinitum.
There’s been a lot of banter recently about “Black Lives Matter”…
However, I heard a response from the Sheriff of the deputy who was shot that I think sums up
all of this craziness best…
his response to the press just following the murder of his deputy was, and I’m paraphrasing…
‘that there has been lots of talk surrounding the Black lives matter conversation
but we all need to drop the qualifiers and understand one thing…
that ALL lives matter—doesn’t matter black, white, brown, yellow…
ALL lives matter…’
For you see, in this one man’s grief over the wasteful loss of life,
he gets it–he can actually see to the core of what is yet just one more divisional line
to so many divisional lines in this Nation of ours…
…for in the heart of God, there are no distinctions…
there is no line of separation, no color, no status, no sides, no qualifiers…
all that exists is a Love that is as wide and tall as it is deep…as in never-ending.
It does not discriminate, nor does it look twice…
it does not set limits nor does it demand anything in return…
It is equal, all-inclusive, welcoming, and offered to each and every one…
who so chooses to accept it—-
and that’s the kicker…
choosing to accept it––
choosing love, forgiveness, surrendering of self, of pride, of ego, of hate, of suspicion
in exchange for Love…
a Love that has been offered from a Father and bought with the ultimate price by a son,
so that you and I could stop the madness and live a life that finally lets go of the hate—
So today, these five years later, I still say all lives matter.
I still say folks who seek violence as a means to an end are thugs.
I still know that we are all born and that we will all die.
And I know, more importantly, that it’s what happens in between both that living and that dying
that is what matters most.
I always find solace in knowing of those who went before me just as I find hope in knowing
that it is particularly important that I leave a path of goodness for those who
follow after me.
I would think that George Floyd would have desired that his life and death be remembered
not for the begetting of more deaths and violence but rather for the possibility of positive
changes for a future generation…
May God have mercy on the United States.
So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith,
for all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ.
There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female,
for you are all one in Christ Jesus. If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s seed,
and heirs according to the promise.
I once heard someone say “The most important thing written on a tomb-stone is the hyphen.” Indeed, your post explains this beautifully. (And I think you are ALREADY leaving the world a better place having shared your loving wisdom with so many of us.)
Thanks DM— I’m sure many, especially nowadays, might bed to differ— oh well 🤗
You know what they say….”Their loss.” Stay true to you Julie, always!
I’m afraid I haven’t been a good daughter over the years. My dad is buried in Milwaukee and we never get there anymore. My mother was cremated and has a marker next to dad, but her ashes were spread in a garden at our old address. When we moved, I dug up a portion of dirt from the site and brought it along with us. She’s now buried in our back yard and I do make sure to plant her favorite pansies in that little garden. As far as tending to cemetery I’ve been negligent. I prefer to think of our ancestors in heaven now anyway.
The climate up here is softening somewhat, but today I ventured out to do some banking only to find our bank closed “for the safety of their customers.” I then went to WalMart for some essentials and saw a line of barricades ready to be placed. When I got inside the store there were four national guard soldiers at the front. I also noticed that a store in the mall was boarded up, even though it was opened. I later discovered that there was to be a protest in Anoka this morning, but it had been cancelled. I think I’ll hang out at home for a while.
Oh Don’t think I’m a grave tender— I never go see “the family”— my family was never one to go back— I only go seek out my grandmother and her clan as they are so interesting and no one is left to tell me about them.
Brenton is more thoughtful than I am— I’m of the thought that no one is really there—
Yes all the shops near Brenton and Abby were trashed, burnt or destroyed beyond repair— I’m so sick of this violence and pure evil mayhem!!!
It has to end. Keep your eyes on the skies. Jesus just might be dropping by soon.
Julie, your post sums up my feelings today. It’s so beautifully written. I started an essay yesterday that I’m calling “tone deaf”. I wanted to escape and I’ve done it sitting here outside of my R.V. sharing Christ’s love with fellow campers. Interestingly, like you and your son, I found solace going to see my family’s graves. I awaken each day knowing I’m one step closer to my home. I’m passing through and witnessing the devastation of hate. It’s predictable. It’s in the Word. It all rings truth. It doesn’t even surprise me. It just saddens me. Every life matters. So many are trying to listen to what they already know. The truth is all we have isn’t it? And during these times I pray faithfully that THE TRUTH will become evident to others. May the hopeless find hope. And may those of us that still have light shining continue to shine. And when we get dim, God,…please help us all. 🤍❤💚🤗
Thanks for the lovely echo of thought!!
This madness has GOT to stop!!!!
First we shrivel from a pandemic, decimating our economy and lives, now massive civil unrest and an attempt to destroy our nation— it makes me weary!!!
But I did figure out how to finally follow your blog!!! Yay!!!!
Awww! Thank you so much for following me. That is so kind! 💚🤗 and 💯 to your words!