are you getting what you want or what you need?

“You are asking for something that would be harmful to your salvation
if you had it—so by not getting what you’ve asked,
you really are getting what you want.”
St. Catherine of Siena

(swallowtail spicebrush butterfly / Julie Cook / 2021)

“What really hurts is not so much suffering as the fear of suffering.
If welcomed trustingly and peacefully, suffering makes us grow.
It matures and trains us, purifies us,
teaches us to love unselfishly, makes us poor in heart, humble,
gentle, and compassionate toward our neighbor.
Fear of suffering, on the other hand,
hardens us in self-protective, defensive attitudes,
and often leads us to make irrational choices
with disastrous consequences.”

Fr. Jacques Philippe, p. 47
An Excerpt From
Interior Freedom

10 comments on “are you getting what you want or what you need?

  1. Great quote from St. Catherine of Siena.


  2. Sweet! Amen, Julie. I’ve been working for a long time on that, welcoming whatever suffering comes “trustingly and peacefully,”.as Fr. Jacques Philippe puts it so beautifully. Some things we really do need to kick and scream about, but fear really does lead us to make irrational choices and cause ourselves more discomfort than necessary.

  3. Frank Hubeny says:

    Good point about fear of suffering from Fr. Philippe. Beautiful butterfly.

  4. Citizen Tom says:

    I don’t think I will be unafraid of suffering any time soon. Doubt I am unusual. Fear not! Or some form of that command is all through the Bible. Courage, however, is not being unafraid. Courage is hearing the command to “fear not!” Courage is exercising one faith, and with increasing faith we become unafraid.

  5. SLIMJIM says:

    What a beautiful butterfly

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